It’s said that there is nothing more challenging than another person. This is definitely true, but I would like to add; there is nothing more rewarding.

I usually meet with couples for sessions that last 75 minutes, (one and a half sessions). Our initial consultation will last for two hours.

While talking is our primary modality, because of my experiential training I have the option, where helpful, to integrate talk with action methods such as family-of-origin sculpting and role-reversal. In other words, I might ask couples to show, not tell. Action methods often help people to have a more embodied experience and understanding of the dynamics that may be interfering with their relationship.

Additionally, I draw upon the theories of “attachment”. The help explain our biological need to bond with others they help us to identify the differing styles of coping developed earlier in our lives in response to challenging relationships.

Another approach which I have been studying and integrate is the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. This model is particularly useful in that it explains normal and natural stages and struggles encountered by couples. This model provides a structure for couples therapy. It helps couples identify where they stand in the evolution of their coupledom. Together, we can target specific treatment interventions.

And let us not forget neuroscience, the study of the human brain. Recent work provides a deepening understanding of the physiological roots of personal feelings and behavior within a relationship. This is very exciting, helpful and hopeful!