I t’s said that there is nothing more challenging than another person. This is definitely true, but I would like to add; there is nothing more rewarding.
I usually meet with couples for sessions that last 75 minutes, (one and a half sessions). Our initial consultation will last for two hours.
While talking is our primary modality, because of my experiential training I can utilize action methods such as family-of-origin sculpting and role-reversal. These methods often help people to have a more embodied experience and understanding of the dynamics that may be interfering with their relationship.
I respect and draw upon the theories of “attachment” which explain the biological need to bond with others and the differing styles of coping developed earlier in our lives in response to limiting or challenging relationships. These theories also help us understand the relational maps, which is particularly useful in couples work.
Another approach which I have been studying is the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. This model is particularly useful in that it explains normal and natural stages and struggles encountered by couples. This model provides a structure for couples therapy. It identifies the stages of the developmental process and the specific treatment interventions for each these stages
In addition, I pay close attention to the things we are learning about neuroscience, the study of the human brain. Recent work provides a deepening understanding of the physiological roots of personal feelings and behavior within a relationship. This is very exciting, helpful and hopeful!